The Power of… Talking about your Feelings

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Talking about our feelings is one of the very most important things we can do for our overall well-being. Holding in stress and other feelings can often lead to other mental issues, such as depression, and can also exhibit itself in actual physical symptoms. Getting those feelings out by talking about them can lead to less stress and stronger, healthier relationships. Let’s dive further into the issue of talking about feelings and why it is so widely recommended.

Stress is the number one cause of chronic illness. Believe it or not, even if we have happy feelings that are kept within us, this can lead to stress. Locked up feelings can lead to more stress, depression, anxiety, headaches, high blood pressure, and can even raise our risk for heart disease. Stress can also lead to obesity and can affect sleep patterns and lead to problems with efficiency at work. The important thing to realize is that we all have feelings, good and bad, and those feelings need to come out to help us feel better, mentally and physically. Since stress affects both mind and body, it makes sense that if we release stressful feelings, our minds and bodies will feel rejuvenated and ready to tackle other issues. Talking with a trusted friend, family member, or a counselor has been shown in much psychological research to reduce stress and lower one’s blood pressure. Keeping things in can do just the opposite and exacerbate the problems you have.

Talking about your feelings can also strengthen and solidify the relationships you have with the people you love. In fact, if we constantly keep our feelings locked up and refuse to talk about them, it can cause the people close to us, such as our spouses or partners, to feel left out and not trusted. The people who are in our lives are there for a reason – they love us and they deeply care about how we feel. Talking about how we feel, truthfully and honestly, can really build up trust and companionship within a relationship and make us feel even more loved, confident, and ready to talk on the world. Talking about feelings with a spouse or a partner is one of the most intimate and romantic things we can do. Letting someone get a glimpse into your innermost thoughts is sometimes difficult to do, but can be an extremely rewarding experience.

How To Talk About Your Feelings

  • Know your feelings first. It is recommended that you really think about what it is that you feel before deciding to get those feelings out. If you don’t really know exactly how you feel, this is okay too, because talking can help sort through the feelings and give you more definition and clarity.
  • Talk with someone you trust. Whether the person is a family member, a counselor, your best friend, or even a group of friends, make sure they are trustworthy and you feel comfortable talking with them.
  • Use “I” statements, like “I feel happy when…”.
  • Do NOT use “you” statements, like “You make me mad when you…”. It is very important not to place blame on anyone. You are talking about your innermost feelings, not what someone did or did not do to you.
  • Be honest and open. It will make you feel great!

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